4 Steps to Finding Your Style

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Who doesn’t want to look their absolute best at all times? The fact is that that is a hard thing to achieve, but there are certain things which are always going to help in making it much easier to come about.

One of those important factors to consider is that you will need to try and get in touch with your own sense of style if you are to look your best. As long as you are style-less, or merely following the styles of others, you are never going to be quite looking how you want to, and you will always feel that something is missing.

But developing your own style is not necessarily the kind of thing that comes easily, and you might find that it takes time and effort to make it a reality. Let’s look at some of the essential things you can do to make it a little easier, and to find your own style in no time.

Trial & Error

First of all, it’s important to remember that the most important tool at your disposal is trial and error. Ultimately, you have to try out many different styles before you land on one that works, and you will find that utilising a trial and error mindset is the only way that you are going to be able to make that happen.

You should therefore be prepared for a long stint of trial and error if you hope to land on a style that’s right for you, and that ultimately means that you should prepare yourself for plenty of apparent failings.

As long as you remember that these failings are actually just a step along the way, it will mean that you are in the right mindset to ultimately carry on as much as you need to.

This process of trial and error can indeed be incredibly frustrating, which is why you need to make sure that you are ready for it. You might find that there are times when you start to doubt yourself, or doubt that you can actually find a style that will really work.

But push on no matter what, and you will eventually get there – and you’ll be glad that you put the effort into it too.

Your Body Type

It’s no use trying out a multitude of different styles, however, if you are not really sure of what your body looks like in the first place. Most people are so out of touch with their own bodies that they completely fail to understand what kind of body type they have.

That, inevitably, makes it a thousand times more difficult to be able to find your style, or even find many clothes that fit you well. You need to therefore spend a decent amount of time with yourself, merely looking in the mirror or asking friends to help you, in order to determine and get comfortable with what your body type really is.

If you do that, you will find that you are much more likely to be able to find your own style, and that it will be a much easier process along the way too. It is worth spending some time on this to make everything else so much easier in the future.

Remember too that your body type is not necessarily something which is fixed. There will be certain elements to it which are fixed, but most of all it is stuff that you can change if you want to, such as your overall size. Remembering that will mean that, if you really don’t like your body type, you can at least know that you can change it.

But mostly, you should be aiming to fall in love with whatever your body type happens to be as you look at it now.

The Power Of Small Things

A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that they need to make big, bold and scary changes to their look in order to come into their own style-wise. Whilst there is certainly a place for such bold moves, you would be surprised how much you can achieve by merely changing a few small, choice details.

This is the level that most people will start at, and that is where you should think about starting to change your own style. Once you start doing this, you might well find that you are surprised at just how much of a difference it can make when you are merely changing around a few small details.

Let’s take the example of jewellery, as it is something that most of us wear, and it is a small thing which can be easily altered. If you want to start experimenting with your style, consider making small changes to your jewellery. That could mean changing how much of it you wear, where you wear it, or the style of it.

If you don’t normally wear anklets, what does wearing them seem to do to your style? If you usually have earrings in, how does your face look without them framing it? You might have to put up with a feeling of discomfort here, but then you should find that you are making surprisingly profound changes to your own personal style.

Of course, it goes far beyond mere jewellery, and there are a thousand small things you can change today if you look into it. But the important thing is that you are aware that it doesn’t take huge acts to change your personal style, and you can do so just by playing around with little things instead.


While developing your own style, it’s important that you don’t try to do so in a bubble. Yes, you want to be original, but within that scope of originality you can still find a lot of inspiration from other people.

In particular, you might want to think about looking to public icons who you consider to be stylish. This should give you the necessary inspiration to ensure that you know what to do with regard to your own style.

Got Something to Add?

Have you got any tips to share for finding your personal style? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Until next time, thanks for reading.

Helen, Nial and Lewis.


Welcome to Pikalily, an award-winning food, travel and lifestyle blog. We are Nial and Helen, a happily married couple from Northern Ireland, who share a passion for food and travel among many things. We became parents to our beautiful boy Lewis in 2017. Follow our adventures through the blog.

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